November 18, 2010

You've Got To Have Friends.

I have been living on The Farm now for quite a few years.  In that time I have been privileged enough to make some gorgeous friends.  When I first came here I already had a group of wonderful, close friends ( and we are still very close and they are still very wonderful)  but I realised for day to day survival I was going to need to find some friends who lived nearby.

I was dwelling on this today because I had morning tea with two of my absolute closest farmer's wife friends.  And I mean real friends.  Not the sort that you have to tidy the house and bake up a gourmet storm before they arrive.  More the ones that you can drop in and see when you are filthy dirty, in your oldest farm clothes  and your kids look like they haven't seen the inside of a bath for a week.  And know they will be happy to see you.

Over the years these sorts of friends have kept me sane.

They have babysat the Farmchildren.

They have  cooked for my family when I have been ill.

We have had the sort of phone conversations that go along the lines of:

Hello, It's me.

What are you having for dinner?

Apricot chicken, what about you?

Spaghetti Bolognaise.

OK. Bye, talk tomorrow

Bye
We have drunk too much coffee and too much wine.

We have happily helped ourselves to the contents of each others fridges.

They have laughed when I do things like superglue my hair to the telephone.  I have laughed when they do things like put roast lamb in the oven and forget to turn it on.

We have gone through the ups and downs of pregnancies and miscarriages together. And we have learnt how to be someone's mother together.

There isn't much you can say to these sort of friends.  Except thank you.

13 comments:

Glowless said...

Beautiful post and so true - especially about helping yourself to their fridge! I am honoured to have two friends that fit that description and I don't know where I'd be without them.

Sydney Shop Girl said...

What a wonderful post!

Thank you,

SSG xxx

Reversal Girl said...

Love the rose and the thoughts...

Not A Ballerina said...

Very beautiful!
And although I do have a few friends like that here in the city I imagine that there's something even more special about having "farmer's wife" friends. I bet they feel exactly the same way about you :-)

Our Park Life said...

this is a fabulous post...And too true, these are the type of friends we need in life...

Awww, now I am feeling all warm and fuzzy about my dear friends - not to mention hankering for a glass of wine!

Gill xo

A Farmer's Wife said...

Thanks everyone. I wrote that post because lots of things have happened recently that have shown how loyal my closest friends are. And one of them was having a bad run and I thought she needed cheering up...

MultipleMum said...

What a wonderful post. I so know those friendships and they are truly special. Nurture them. Cherish them. They are what keeps your world sane :) Hi from the Fibro x

Maxabella said...

Popping in via the Fibro today. I love that conversation. It just says so much!!! You are so lucky to have such a close friend. I don't think I do anymore. I hadn't really thought about it, to e honest. But now I am... x

Kymmie said...

I love having a friend that you can call up, ask what they're having for dinner and then hang up. So special. No-one's offended. Just grateful that I now know what they're eating. Or this one: "What are you doing?" "Not much" "Wanna come over?" "okay". That's also an awesome chat. True friendships are based on the small stuff. I'm now following your lovely blog. xx

Dorothy said...

I've never had friends like that. I've read about them, I've heard about them, I've watched movies about them. Perhaps I am missing a fried gene?

I love this post, I love your friends. You are very lucky...

Marion Williams-Bennett said...

I love this friendships and the beautiful way you write about them! It is so important to have these easy, great, helpful people in our lives. It's our community, our support and as you say, it what keeps us sane.

I know you give them the same.

Love this post!

A Farmer's Wife said...

Multiple Mum - Thank you. I am glad you know those friendships also.

Maxabella - Thank you and thank you also for taking the time to drop by and comment.

Kymmie - Thanks for following. I get super excited when my follower numbers increase. I am glad you liked and identified with the post.

Dorothy - I think sometimes you have to meet the right people. I also think that it takes time for such friendships to develop. Mine have occurred over quite a few years. Thank you for commenting. I appreciate it.

Marion - Thank you for your lovely comments. They do indeed keep me sane (or at the very least semi-sane!)

Life In A Pink Fibro said...

A lovely post FW - those kind of friendships are becoming rarer in today's world, I think. I love the Apricot Chicken conversation. I tend to have those with my sisters more than my friends. But you're right about the absolute necessity of friends. Where would we be without them? Thanks for Rewinding at the Fibro this week!